Here’s the second in my now regular ‘guest blogger‘ feature every Monday. I’m thrilled to introduce you to Hayley Riane-Diplock, who runs the ‘Winging It With Two Boys‘ blog. Having dipped her toe in the kids’ pool that is the blogging world with guest posts on This Welsh Mother, Hayley took the plunge down the mini-slide and set up her own blog in March. And wowzers, has she been a busy Mama! There are already over 20 posts on her blog!
A big part of why I set up the Musing Mum page was to give any and all Mamas a helping hand, in whatever ventures they’re currently pursuing. My guest blog spots are available to new and up-coming parent bloggers (dads – this means you too!), as well as those tentative parents who are thinking about starting a blog, and want to give it a try. So get in touch! Mi casa es su casa!
Winging It With Two Boys: Why I Want To Give My Kids Free Choice
There are some big decisions in my kids’ life that I want them to decide for themselves.
I’m a vegetarian and have been for the last 14 years, but my kids aren’t veggie – they eat meat and veggie substitute meals at home.
When they’re old enough they’ll make the decision for themselves once they understand where their meat comes from, and I’ll support whatever decision they decide to make.
I’m not religious, despite going to a secondary school which was a church school – I stopped going to church after my brother died in a car accident. But just because I’m not religious doesn’t mean to say that my boys can’t be.
Although I don’t go to church I’ve tried to expose them to religion. They’ve attended a church wedding, where they’ve seen people praying and singing hymns. They’ve taken part in a nativity at our old toddler group too. Religion is everywhere – Christianity, Islam, Buddhism – we live in such a diverse society now, you see it everywhere.
I want them to see it, and ask questions, and if they tell me one day that they want to go to church then I’ll support them – it’s their decision at the end of the day.
My eldest has just started at gymnastics, and he’s loving it, but if he decides he doesn’t want to do it anymore, then we will stop taking him.
Likewise if the boys say they want to try a particular activity or club, then we will take them so they can try it out (even if it is football, we are totally a rugby household!).
When it comes to their schooling I want them to have a say too. So when we have to apply for their secondary school places I want them to say which school they like and which they don’t. The last thing I want is to send them to a school they absolutely hate.
I want them to choose their own GCSE options and to be happy with the decisions they make.
I don’t want to be a pushy mum, I want them to have a say in what happens in their lives. I want to support and encourage them to make decisions that will potentially affect the rest of their lives. Free choice – with love and support from their parents all the way.